The Benefits of Family Mediation far outweigh the stress of a traditional litigated divorce.

The Benefits of Family Mediation for a Healthier Divorce 

Guest Post written by: Jamie Lee Vesely

Experiencing a divorce is undoubtedly one of the most challenging events in a person’s life. As someone deeply involved in the legal field, I have witnessed the stress and bitterness that often accompanies the traditional adversarial divorce model. Families are torn apart, children suffer from ongoing tension, and the aftermath leaves both parties feeling resentful. However, there is a more constructive approach that I believe provides a better solution for families going through such difficult times.

My journey into the world of Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR), particularly mediation, began during my law school years. The concept of mediation intrigued me, offering a more positive and collaborative method of navigating the complexities of divorce. Recognizing its potential, I immersed myself in ADR-focused classes, foreseeing it as a significant part of how I could help people in the legal realm.

Benefits of Family Mediation

Today, I witnessed firsthand the positive impact mediation has on families seeking divorce. Mediation provides couples with greater freedom, control, and confidentiality compared to the traditional litigation route. By crafting personalized settlement agreements, parties can address their unique circumstances, especially when children are involved. One of the many benefits of family mediation is it allows families to work on their agreement over a few months, unlike the lengthy litigation process that may take years. 

A Human-Centric Approach

What sets family mediation apart is its acknowledgment of the human factor. Unlike the adversarial nature of traditional divorce proceedings, mediation recognizes individuals with emotions, personalities, and thoughts. It goes beyond dividing assets; it delves into the shared history, acknowledging the effort, time, and love invested in the marriage. This human-centric approach fosters compromise and communication, elements often overlooked in traditional divorce.

I have seen numerous families benefit from mediation, some even reminiscing over the positive aspects of their marriage after finalizing their paperwork. Remarkably, mediation has, in some cases, opened lines of communication to the extent that couples saved their marriages. While this may not be the norm, mediation serves as the door to healthier resolutions. Mediation brings humanity into the divorce equation, repairing and preserving family relationships. Children can have both parents involved in their lives in a more peaceful manner as they grow. Couples can part ways amicably, allowing families to remain connected.

Family Mediation vs. The Traditional Adversarial Model

In comparing the traditional adversarial model with family mediation, it is evident that mediation not only leads to divorce but does so in a more fulfilling way. The personal factors that mediation acknowledges make it a winning option for families seeking a healthier path through divorce. There is a better way, and it’s found with family mediation.